Active Mindfulness - NLP
Active Mindfulness is a marriage of Buddhist practice with NLP, self-hypnosis and Breaking the Trance work.
The issue we all have to deal with is change and flexibility... strategies that worked in one situation may not be appropriate in another but because we felt good the first time we used it we get attached to it. Especially internal ones that came from childhood.They become part of who we feel we are. Letting them go can feel like dying, or at least very terrifying.
The answer is to be able to pause, hold the current feeling and let the habitual way of dealing recede and be open to a new response/behaviour.
The basic outline of Active Mindfulness in 3 stages -
Stage 1. You do it alone with your own thinking feelings.
Stage 2. Do it for yourself as you listen and interact with others then
Stage 3. Interactive Mindfulness hopefully you can find partner which you do together with each other... this last can be first because it's how you learn it.
Stage 1a. starts with standard mindfulness - non-judgmentally experiencing the flow of your consciousness, starting with the simple sensations of your physical body, its positions, movements, then going to a more detailed experience of your skin and muscles, moving to emotional flow and the movements of thoughts. You can do it sitting quietly or doing an activity, preferably repetitive.
Stage 1b. Is the active part - You add challenging or at least questioning that flow - observing, feeling, listening to its shapes, colours, sounds, its changing qualities, getting more detailed as you get more experienced... then noticing how your inner decisions affect that flow. All this alone in quiet moments. It means the end of boredom.
Stage 2. Next comes doing all this in relationship exchanges on the go, as you interact. As you say - when you get on the stage you can notice how your internal decisions and feelings can affect the flow of the drama in the play.
Stage 3. Interactive Mindfulness Can be both a mentoring/learning opportunity, but also is the core of power exchange & Tantric relationships beyond including the sex part, to empowering intimacy.
Principles behind the Practice.
All thoughts and internal experiences have some sensory structure.
Using your imagination to change the sensory part of the thought/feeling/internal experience changes the experience, specifically its meaning for you.
All experiences have a relationship aspect, that is a target and reason or meaning. Question who are the participants, the targets and the reason in the experience, even if it's old. Changing these well change the meaning.
The aim is not to be free of the experiences of life, the universe and everything but to be free to decide what they mean for you and how you participate in them.